Happy August people!
First things first, Thank you, Thank you so so much for all your efforts and opinions on my last post when I asked for your help on my first article. Now that the mag is published and already on sale, I can now say that it was indeed a success. A lot of you are mentioned on it so get your August copy and have a look!
Secondly, I know… I really need to stop taking my time in updating this blog. No excuse btw. Just been so busy with work and this my social life, lol…
Summer has been good to me, INCASE ANYONE WAS WONDERING:-) like I said, busy at work and been spending a lot of time with the fam. Feel like Im closer to my cousins now more than I was before because I have taken the time to hang out with them. I have been EATING A LOT. AS IN this appetite of mine is not normal lol… I actually had to take a break from eating fries because I was having them practically EVERY DAMN DAY. Damn those fries lol.. and I know @isamakina can relate to this as she the person I have been eating those fries with the most! Speaking of which, @isamakina is a wonderful American woman that I met here through my family and we have become fast friends and I really love her company:) She is awesome. I have also been watching ALOT OF MOVIES. I think the guys at IMAX should know me by now considering the number of times I have been there to book tickets or catch a 9p.m showing; P.S(you all need to go watch the dark knight rises!!!) yeah… Im one of those people who waited for the premier at midnight despite the previous Colorado shooting and people getting scared off… Im in a whole different continent and No one in Kenya is going to try and shoot out an entire theatre- or so I hope.
Last but not least, I have been doing a lot of growing up of late. Some changes in my life are happening that I never wanted to accept but you can’t hide forever can you? Reality is a bitch sometimes but then again, she is a breath of fresh air. Which brings me to today’s topic. The truths of life. Now seeing as I am a bored soul with a job, lol… I tend to spend a lot of time on STUMBLEUPON (This site is procrastination’s best friend I swear!) but on doing that, I stumble upon(pun intended) very many useful things. e.g. I learnt how to make an Oreo Cheesecake from this site, I learnt a lot about photoshop on this site, I learnt a lot about exercise on this site… very useful. So I came across this list of 12 Tough Truths of Life, and as I read through them, I couldn’t help but relate to quite a number if not all. So decided I would share them here just to let you know that yes, life may be quite a challenge most of the time but that’s the reality of the matter. We cannot control every little thing. So don’t let life get you down, but instead, let it happen. live it and live through these truths and grow from them as well.
1.Everything is as it should be. It’s crazy how you always end up where you’re meant to be, how even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons that you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place.
2.Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your true self. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don’t want. Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret. Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare. Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it.
3.It’s usually the deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your full potential. It’s the scary, stressful choices that end up being the most worthwhile. Without pain, there would be no change. But remember, pain, just like everything in life, is meant to be learned from and then released.
4.One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. If you catch yourself in a cycle of trying to change someone, or defending yourself against someone who is trying to change you, walk away. But if you are pursuing a dream, take another step. And don’t forget that sometimes this step will involve modifying your dream, or planning a new one; it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream.
5.You have to take care of yourself first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness, it’s called personal development. Once you balance yourself, only then can you balance the world around you.
6.One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself, can you own yourself.
7.You may need to be single for awhile before you realize that, although the co-owned belongings from your failed relationships might not have been divided equally, the issues that destroyed the relationships likely were. For how can you stand confidently alone, or see the same issues arising in your newest relationship, and not realize which broken pieces belong to you? Owning your issues, and dealing with them, will make you far happier in the long run, than owning anything else in this world.
8.The only thing you can absolutely control is how you react to things out of your control. The more you can adapt to the situations in life, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows in your life. Put most simply: being at peace means being in a state of complete acceptance of all that is, right here, right now.
9.Some people will lie to you. Remember, an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth, which will help you measure the true quality of your relationship in the long-term.
10.If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. If you are thankful for what you do have, you will end up having even more. Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold; happiness dwells in the soul. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. When you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away.
11.Yes, you have failed in the past. But don’t judge yourself by your past, you don’t live there anymore. Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday. You can turn it all around in the blink of an eye by making a simple choice to stand back up; to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.
12.Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and you may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine. Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again.
I personally like #11 the most esp because I am at that point in my life where I focus too much on my failures than on moving on and trying again or trying something else. But I will be able to move on, I am moving on. Anyway, hope these truths help all of you as we venture into the next month, the last month of summer, as we prepare for school and work and all that crazy busyness to come.