2016. Another year, another chance at starting afresh… New year, new me and all that Jazz. Well, for me this new year doesn’t feel new at all. Just feels like we moved on to a new month as we always do. The only thing that makes me feel like this is actually a new year is the fact that it is my birthday month, so with a new year, always comes the reminder that I’m about to turn a year older – yet again. As if I was meant to stop getting older at some point haha…
Studying abroad is basically a right of passage for anyone in their 20s and I am so blessed that I got to do it twice in my life. Studying abroad is an amazing experience that teaches you so much and not just in the classroom, in life as well. Plus who can say no to traveling and experiencing a whole new country? This article is all about all the things you should know before and during your time abroad. I hope it helps someone out there gearing up for a great adventure abroad soon.
So FYI… I just turned 25. Freaking 25 years old. I feel so damn old! But then so young at the same time haha, guessing that’s the quarter life crisis part??
My birthday was this past weekend and being my first birthday back home and my freaking 25th!! I had to make it worth my while:) My birthday has never been fun happy times for me because it falls about the same time as my grandmother’s death anniversary, so Im normally more nostalgic than uber happy and spend the day in reminisce and deep thought of the woman I love and miss so much. This year though, marking 5 years since she went to heaven, I thought of celebrating her memory knowing that if she were here she would want me to mark this quarter life milestone with joy, laughter and happiness. So that’s exactly what I did… I had joy, laughter and happiness in the form of my closest friends and I having a celebratory dinner together. I always thought I would go all out for my 25th, being me and my obsession with birthdays esp milestone ones lol… But this past weekend was much more than I could have ever hoped for.
Thank you to my wonderful friends for being the amazing beings that you are and thanks to my family for being appreciative and loving to me:) Below is a special pictorial, bday edition!
|This is what 25 looks like:)|
|@Thuggz213 was a bit too happy about cake lol…|
|Much love to my fave aviator chic @Sab_G|
|cake #2 thanks to @MsNyairo|
|Made a wish…|
|And kissed a giraffe, perfect end to a beautiful day don’t you think?|
|Pretty girlfriends I have!|
|I heart @miss_muthoni!|
|I was at first calmly waiting for my cake…|
|Then the sparklers almost burned my dress!!|
So yes… even after all that eating, my resolution still is to get healthier and fitter, yes despite my hating on all the cliche pips! haha, I feel ya’ll. That december/januaryweight needs to DIE! A very a quick death btw but knowing my body I know it will be a very slow and painful death. I give myself 5 months top:) I have since starting taking evening walks/jogs with my brother. He is my motivator because he is such a gym fanatic… When I grow up I tell you… For now, babysteps:) Seeing as Nairobi decided to turn into the sahara desert once 2014 dawned on us, I have to do these walks really late in the evening as the scorching sun refuses to set any earlier. Which is still fine by me as because I can’t do the whole crack of dawn workout thing. Not my nocturnal self, no. I have come to really love these evening walks because even though both my brother and I have our earphones plugged in and music set on high volume, I feel as if we bond in a way over the silence between us. Walking on the dusty paths, taking in the pollution filled air and watching the BEAUTIFUL sunsets Africa never lied about… gives me a weird source of joy. I find myself smiling alone and just mentally saying… ‘This is home. This is home and I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else.’ I shall keep up with these walks, think they keep me less stressed and less stress means less eating meaning no more extra weight gain lol.
Stay Fit and stay hydrated folks during this so called ‘summer’ we are experiencing now, you wont regret it!
“There is an inner beauty about a woman who believes in herself, who knows she is capable of anything that she puts her mind to. There is a beauty in the strength and determination of a woman who follows her own path, who isn’t thrown off by obstacles along the way. There is a beauty about a woman whose confidence comes from experiences; who knows she can fall, pick herself up, and move on”
I cannot remember who exactly said that, but I found it inspiring and beautiful and it’s wonderful way to start the weekend and to start my post too! SIGH… It has been too damn long! I know and I have no excuse except the fact that school has taken over my life, literally. lemme summarize the past month and a half:
1. Procrastination is Real– It is very very real! lol, I have been postponing this post for over an entire month now. Week after week after week, I keep saying “I’ll blog today… Or maybe tomorrow” Every freaking day! lol so today was the end point of that. If I keep procrastinating like this I may as well not call myself a blogger.
2. The Struggle is Real– I can’t even describe this. I have spent days on days, nights on nights, working on projects upon projects… All this while trying to keep a constant workout schedule and healthy diet going and searching for gradschools, internships and jobs… and oh yeah,working too. #EXHAUSTION is what I am feeling right now. Seems I can’t catch a break but I’m not complaining, loving the busy life just wishing I could sneak in some random funtimes here and there in my life. Anyway, such is life right? Struggle now, celebrate later?
3. The Hustle is Real– This has nothing to do with me but just wanna promote a couple of gigs my friends have been involved in and Im just so proud of their new ventures in life. 1st up, Fifi! @fmushi, my bestie, rommie, practically my everything here, lol.. u know I love you Fi. Nwy, she and her sister have started an online clothing boutique called 5% more chic. If you have seen the numerous pictures I have posted of Fiona either here, or on my fb, twitter, IG, u will know that this girl has style like no other! Fashion is her dream and she’s now making it her career. The site is still under construction but will launch very soon. They are based in Dar-es-Salaam but are planning on making deliveries regionally i.e East Africa and hopefully the world. Watch this space, they are about to become the next ASOS hailing from the motherland:)
2ndly, Pinchits! aka Eugene aka @Chef_Pinchito. Another fashion lover who wants to see to #BeSeen. #Moran is the name of his newly launched urban clothing line. Incorporates modern style with African prints to keep it local but super fresh at the same time. I’ll let the clothes to the talking, click here to see what #MoranApparel has to offer.
4. The Search for the Cure is Real– As you all know, October is Breast Cancer Awareness month and normally I’m not one for participating in all the activities that come round during this time but decided to change that this year. Do something out of my comfort zone, do something to spread awareness, do something in memory of all those who have lost their battle with cancer, one of them being my late Grandma. I participated in the annual Breast Cancer walk held in Orange and personally, I didn’t think I could get through it, given that my last ‘big walk/run’ was the Dettol heart run way back in high school that I did not even complete! lol but I did it, I completed it together with the BSU chapter of my school and it felt really great to have done something to help out, to help fundraise and help in the search for the cure. I don’t know if we shall ever find a cure… yes, I am hinting at my doctor friends @waiyaiya & Co. lol but atleast we can keep hoping and getting people to pray and hope with us. Faith does move mountains after all.
Well that’s most I can remember for now, my brain is on goldfish mode because it has way too much to remember lol. I have to disappear now and dive into my plethora of projects for the weekend but it feels good to blog again, like a breathe of fresh air. Will try make more time for this more often, but if I don’t report back in another month or so, call 911, seriously. Or just tweet @fmushi to see if Im still alive lol.
Happy August people!
First things first, Thank you, Thank you so so much for all your efforts and opinions on my last post when I asked for your help on my first article. Now that the mag is published and already on sale, I can now say that it was indeed a success. A lot of you are mentioned on it so get your August copy and have a look!
Secondly, I know… I really need to stop taking my time in updating this blog. No excuse btw. Just been so busy with work and this my social life, lol…
Summer has been good to me, INCASE ANYONE WAS WONDERING:-) like I said, busy at work and been spending a lot of time with the fam. Feel like Im closer to my cousins now more than I was before because I have taken the time to hang out with them. I have been EATING A LOT. AS IN this appetite of mine is not normal lol… I actually had to take a break from eating fries because I was having them practically EVERY DAMN DAY. Damn those fries lol.. and I know @isamakina can relate to this as she the person I have been eating those fries with the most! Speaking of which, @isamakina is a wonderful American woman that I met here through my family and we have become fast friends and I really love her company:) She is awesome. I have also been watching ALOT OF MOVIES. I think the guys at IMAX should know me by now considering the number of times I have been there to book tickets or catch a 9p.m showing; P.S(you all need to go watch the dark knight rises!!!) yeah… Im one of those people who waited for the premier at midnight despite the previous Colorado shooting and people getting scared off… Im in a whole different continent and No one in Kenya is going to try and shoot out an entire theatre- or so I hope.
Last but not least, I have been doing a lot of growing up of late. Some changes in my life are happening that I never wanted to accept but you can’t hide forever can you? Reality is a bitch sometimes but then again, she is a breath of fresh air. Which brings me to today’s topic. The truths of life. Now seeing as I am a bored soul with a job, lol… I tend to spend a lot of time on STUMBLEUPON (This site is procrastination’s best friend I swear!) but on doing that, I stumble upon(pun intended) very many useful things. e.g. I learnt how to make an Oreo Cheesecake from this site, I learnt a lot about photoshop on this site, I learnt a lot about exercise on this site… very useful. So I came across this list of 12 Tough Truths of Life, and as I read through them, I couldn’t help but relate to quite a number if not all. So decided I would share them here just to let you know that yes, life may be quite a challenge most of the time but that’s the reality of the matter. We cannot control every little thing. So don’t let life get you down, but instead, let it happen. live it and live through these truths and grow from them as well.
1.Everything is as it should be. It’s crazy how you always end up where you’re meant to be, how even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons that you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place.
2.Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your true self. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don’t want. Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret. Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare. Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it.
3.It’s usually the deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your full potential. It’s the scary, stressful choices that end up being the most worthwhile. Without pain, there would be no change. But remember, pain, just like everything in life, is meant to be learned from and then released.
4.One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. If you catch yourself in a cycle of trying to change someone, or defending yourself against someone who is trying to change you, walk away. But if you are pursuing a dream, take another step. And don’t forget that sometimes this step will involve modifying your dream, or planning a new one; it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream.
5.You have to take care of yourself first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness, it’s called personal development. Once you balance yourself, only then can you balance the world around you.
6.One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself, can you own yourself.
7.You may need to be single for awhile before you realize that, although the co-owned belongings from your failed relationships might not have been divided equally, the issues that destroyed the relationships likely were. For how can you stand confidently alone, or see the same issues arising in your newest relationship, and not realize which broken pieces belong to you? Owning your issues, and dealing with them, will make you far happier in the long run, than owning anything else in this world.
8.The only thing you can absolutely control is how you react to things out of your control. The more you can adapt to the situations in life, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows in your life. Put most simply: being at peace means being in a state of complete acceptance of all that is, right here, right now.
9.Some people will lie to you. Remember, an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth, which will help you measure the true quality of your relationship in the long-term.
10.If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. If you are thankful for what you do have, you will end up having even more. Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold; happiness dwells in the soul. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. When you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away.
11.Yes, you have failed in the past. But don’t judge yourself by your past, you don’t live there anymore. Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday. You can turn it all around in the blink of an eye by making a simple choice to stand back up; to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.
12.Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and you may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine. Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again.
I personally like #11 the most esp because I am at that point in my life where I focus too much on my failures than on moving on and trying again or trying something else. But I will be able to move on, I am moving on. Anyway, hope these truths help all of you as we venture into the next month, the last month of summer, as we prepare for school and work and all that crazy busyness to come.