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Typewriter Tuesdays – Dear Arianna Huffington

Well being, Wisdom, Wonder, Giving

The above are four words that from the point I was done reading the book ‘Thrive’ to infinity will always be ingrained in my mind. I loved this book so much I decided to dedicate this review specially to the author.

Dear Arianna,

All I want to say is thank you. Thrive is a book I have had in my possession since November 2014 and had not bothered to get into it as I thought it would be yet another cliche self-help book but; what makes this one quite different is how well you relate your entire life to the four pillars (mentioned above) that make up the third metric to success according to you. I read this book on a flight back to Kenya from India and I’m not a very fast reader… 8hours later I was done with the book and filled with a whole new insight to life.

We all know that we should take care of ourselves, mentally, physically and emotionally. We should be of sound mind to be able to perform our daily duties well. But the problem most of us face is the supposed ‘lack of time’ to take time out to take care of ourselves mentally, physically and emotionally. This was the basis of your book fortunately (because were it not for your fall this book would not be in existence) and unfortunately (because you got hurt pretty bad, a cut eye and broken cheek bone?? Ouch!) 

We all want success and fulfillment in our careers but at what expense exactly? I took this trip to India to visit my mother who was undergoing treatment there and it could not have come at a more perfect time as I was already feeling burned out (In March!) and in need of a break. I work 5 days a week at my full time job and weekends are spent taking care of different freelancing engagements if any… The life of a writer – the hustle never stops. My schedule isn’t as hectic though compared to some people I know who literally work almost over 20 hrs a day, Monday to Sunday and the only break taken is to either eat, answer the phone or take a nap for a couple of minutes and it’s back to the grind.

“Your business might have a great bottom line, but you are your most important capital.”

The 4 pillars to the Third metric of success all serve a particular purpose to our lives and as this is not only a letter but a book review as well, I will give my thoughts on all four here.

Well Being

Well being is all about getting time to know YOU. You explain to readers that the three things that affect our well being are burnout, stress and depression. We constantly put a lot into our lives that we forget as the damage process goes on in our life, there must be time to repair and renew as well. Renewal happens in the form of meditation and plugging out of our digitally consumed life even if for an hour or less. Every minute not taxing your mind with so much counts.

I have never been one to meditate, I never seem to, for lack of a better word, ‘have time’ to switch off from the world even for 5 minutes. I have always been told it’s a good thing to add to your everyday schedule but I just found it as time wasted when I could do something else like check my email or twitter. The tips you gave on meditation for beginners by the way – stellar. It took me a good 3 days to get used to setting aside 10 minutes in the day to just be fully present and in the moment no matter what else I had going on but it has since helped me prioritize better and take on hectic tasks and hectic people better. A certain *whoosah* moment comes with taking time to be patient with yourself and everything around you.

Getting enough sleep and getting blood circulation going by staying active are two more aspects you talk about to help with taking care of your well being. As a self proclaimed insomniac and night owl, I find this part not impossible to do but it has its challenges. As a creative, I have since tuned my body to function best at night whether it’s when doing work or working out or getting inspiration to work or workout… Everything, according to my life since High school, has always worked better late at night. Getting into the real world after college gave me such a wake up call because the rest of the world functions during the day and never at night aside from a select few. Just until recently, read January 2015, despite having to wake up at 5:30am for my morning run, I would still find myself staying up way past midnight. I am not getting any younger as I work harder sadly and my stamina is slowly reducing thanks to how much I push myself. Sundays were the only day I would ever get a full 7-8 hours of sleep. That has since changed thankfully and I try get in as much as sleep as I can everyday, no matter the amount of work that needs to get done. There is a time for everything.

“When we are all mind, things can get rigid. When we are all heart, things can get chaotic. both lead to stress. But when they work together, the heart leading through empathy, the mind guiding us with focus and attention, we become a harmonious human being”

Wisdom

This was my favorite section of the book because of how open you were about parts of your life such as your daughter’s addiction problem. You were faced with the hardest challenge when the drugs almost took her life, but it taught you and your daughter how to be grateful for the most simple things and how to be vulnerable in the face of challenges.

Intuition is one other part in the wisdom chapter that equally resonated with me. I’m sure you have all heard the saying – trust your intuition, it’s almost always right. That’s because it is. The examples you give in the book are quite incredible and I have some interesting yet random intuition based connections that have really worked out positively so I truly believe in intuition – that inner voice that can only be listened to if you are mindful of it aka get enough sleep, learn to take time out of the world and be fully present. See what you did there?? Haha everything is one big circle. Well being, Wisdom, and now… Wonder. P.S: The gratitude list was the best thing I ever did for myself and my best friend, love it!

“My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me”

Wonder

What I liked best about this section was the fact that the simplest things like the flowers blooming outside (Spring is nigh somewhere in the world) or taking time to disappear into a book, or encountering a random coincidence are all a form of forced reboot as you say. These things force us to stop and think about the present moment. Wondering makes us gain a sense of gratitude for things we usually take for granted.

The story about Scott Simon’s dialogue on death as he live-tweeted his mother’s death really hit home for me. I was with my grandmother during her last few weeks alive and to this day regret not being there during the last days. I was not prepared for her to go, I really wasn’t. I knew she would be home in time for my 20th birthday and we had even talked about what we would do on that day and how she believed that being 20 means I need to start finding a husband haha, she was a funny one my grandmother. Anyway, I clammed up after her death for about two years and with that came a depression that almost made me drop out of college in my sophomore year. It took me those two years to come to terms with the cruel but necessary hand of death and to accept it. To know that it should not be the end of my life and to be grateful for the mere fact that I was alive every single day I woke up. I wonder sometimes what she would be doing now were she still with us, and all I know is that she would be happy. Happy living her life as I should be.

“Don’t Miss the Moment”

Giving

Very self explanatory and important to be reminded about. Most insightful part was the section you wrote about go-givers being better than go-getters. Key word of this section – Social Entrepreneur, thanks Bill Drayton for the clever term. A social entrepreneur is basically a business entrepreneur and social reformer combined. Perfect. More and more entrepreneurs here in Nairobi are in it to better the country they live in while still getting a profit from giving a service as well. I have a friend who works in finance and has always wanted to start her own company. Having studied in the States during her undergrad she got to see how crowd funding works and works well especially for the youth. She has since started her own version of crowd funding locally but with a different twist. Her company, Mradifund, an online fundraising platform, helps small business owners connect with investors who provide both the capital and mentorship to help these young budding innovators get to the next level. The average Kenyan with a big idea gets to see his/her dream become a reality while the investors not only build their portfolio in the process but also get to become a part of the next big thing with each successful idea acted upon. Kudos to you @missvnjoroge!

Thank you Arianna for reminding us that success is not success if it only benefits you.

“Because it is really true that while we grow physically by what we get, we grow spiritually by what we give”

This is quite a long letter but after reading this book, I had to share my sentiments on it not just with you but with the world as well. Once again, Thank you for sharing your life lessons with the rest of the world and with each page of Thrive turned we all gain a sense of well being, wisdom, wonder and a sense of giving as well.

Sincerely,
Avid fan of the Huffington Post and now, Thrive.

N/B: All quotes are from the book.

Taking Stock – Six

Making: Some major decisions in my life. I feel like I am always doing this though lol, so lets scratch that, I’m making major PLANS in my life. That sounds more concrete because it means those decisions will actually pan out. So I hope…

Cooking Eating: So much yummy Indian food! Currently in India visiting my mother and I am cheating on my diet everyday with all this rich and spicy food everywhere:)

Not a picture taken by me! But it shows you the beauty of Indian food:)

Drinking: Lots and lots of water. This Indian heat isn’t sparing anyone and I thought I was escaping the sun by leaving Nairobi for a few days goodness! Craving my ultimate guilty pleasure, the tropical fruit smoothies from Artcaffe, simply bliss!

Reading: Thrive by Arianna Huffington and loving it, book review coming up soon!

Wanting: A new phone, why won’t anyone hear my iPhone 6 cries??:(

Looking: For a really good paper source. Wanna get back to designing stationery and I need really good quality paper. Any suggestions?

Playing: With my hair, which needs to be done like asap once I get home. Braids should not last this long haha

Wasting: A lot of time watching Gotham. I’m done with that show, it has failed me.

Sewing Creating: Many more vision boards in my head than I should be doing on paper lol.. Need to jot all these ideas down before the disappear.

Wishing: I could make everything I want to happen in the next few months happen without any repercussions… If wishes were horses though.

Enjoying: This relaxing mini-break in India, was def much needed!

Waiting: For lunch. Food in india is tres amazing, like I said… been eating way too much

Liking: The progress my mother is making on her recovery, God is really something else:)

Wondering: How to come up with the best scholarship essay yet, I need some tips… Gradschool is calling.

Loving: The philanthropic nature of Indians in general. There is hope for humanity after all

Hoping: To get back on track with my fitness regime when I get back home. My accountability partner @nassstro1 says I have been super slacking lol, I’m sorry!

Marvelling: At the growth of so many of my dear friends in regards to their professional and personal life and I am in awe of them. Kudos to you all, you know who you are:)

Needing: I not only want a new phone, I am in desperate need of one. My poor phone is dying out on me gradually. I should start an #Iphone6Fund lol

Smelling: Gauze and methylated spirits… I’ve been living in a hospital for the past week, don’t judge me

Wearing: Capris, a blue tee and a striped sweater

Following: The TVs in this hospital are constantly tuned to CNN so every morning I have breakfast watching the Amanpour show with Christine Amanpour and I love her as a journalist. Never watched her show before and these past few days have made me an Amanpour groupie all of a sudden. As a fellow journalist, it’s only right that I began following her after watching one show. She’s awesome.

Noticing: Once again I shall speak on the greatness I have around in form of the friends I have. Young people taking charge of their lives and doing what they want and doing it super well. It’s a great thing because its assuring of the fact that our future has great leaders in its midst, great thinkers and innovators alike as well.

Knowing: That despite everything going on, all will be well. That is what I tell myself all the time especially when things feel like they are the end all and be all… all will be well. God never gives us something we cannot handle.

Thinking: About writing a short book, like a short story of sorts. It’s been a while since I did any fictional writing, let’s see if I can pull together about 6000words?? haha.. This writer turned editor/reporter is scared. But nothing is impossible. I shall share it here once it is ready and you all can give me feedback on whether I should get back on the fiction train or stay at the editor’s desk lol

Feeling: Hungry, lunch is taking too long to show up

Bookmarking: Nothing of late but I’m back to perusing through Stumbleupon for inspiration purposes, try it out too, you never know what you may stumble upon there haha(pun fully intended).

Opening: The page to this amazing event, Chanda Chema where I should be seeing you all on March 14th! PS: I shall be selling my cupcakes there, come through for some!

Giggling: At some of the comments my mother makes lol… She is one satirical and hilarious woman.

Typewriter Tuesdays – Adultery

Another Tuesday, another book review!

Hello fellow bookworms. Are you all feeling the pinch of January yet? It’s payday week and I’m just counting down the days man, it’s been way too long, the struggle is so real. Anyway, that aside… I finally got done reading Paulo Coelho’s much anticipated new novel, Adultery and for the first time ever… He has disappointed me.

Let me at least give you a short synopsis first before I give my own two cents. Adultery is a story that revolves around Linda, a successful journalist with a loving wealthy husband and children she adores. Despite all this, Linda is depressed. She hates her life, her marriage and is looking for some kind of drastic change to her monotonous life. She takes on an interview with her high school sweetheart which turned into more of an office romp than anything else… and it is after this that she does a double take on her life and makes it her mission to find out why she is so depressed. She tries to reignite the spark in her marriage with her husband, it worked for like two weeks and back to days of melancholy she went. She tried to ‘talk it out’ with a traditional healer… He only made her feel worse. She seeks vengeance on her high sweetheart’s wife but even that didn’t give her the satisfaction she needed.

There is of course a lot of what Coelho is known for in the book, a lot of deep quotes that give you insight to various aspects of your life and it is actually those sections of the book that kept me reading by the way. He knows how to keep his readers glued to his books despite the poor storyline in this one. And of course in relation to the title, there are some forced sex scenes.. because she is actually committing adultery (guess he had to put that in somewhere) and this book kind of makes you question what you want in regards to love in your life.

The review in the Independent had this much to say about it… “This reader would be open to a moment of seeing the divine in Nature, of being reminded we are small beings part of a larger mysterious entity: “And the eagle tells me: ‘Come. You are heaven and earth, the wind and the clouds, the snow and the lakes.’” But, at odds with the words and actions gone before, the resolution is too glib, verging on the patronising.”… Ummm yeah, so I’ll just leave that there.

Paulo Coelho, I love your work but this; I think this was just an ‘Omg I need to release a book before everyone thinks I have stopped writing’ type of lightbulb moment. Not your best. Let’s go back to the Manuscripts in Accra and Brida story flow types, we’ll always be your loyal fans no matter what though, don’t worry.

2015 really hasn’t started out with the best written works for me it seems. I need to pick the next book I read very carefully, I have to write at least one positive review before March. Yes, before March, suggestions are highly appreciated! I’ll leave you all with one quote from the book that particularly stuck to me:

“Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s an art. And like any art, it takes not only inspiration but also a lot of work.” Coelho

Enjoy the week ahead and hope we all get paid by this weekend! January needs to end.

Typewriter Tuesdays – David and Goliath

This month’s book review is of Malcolm Gladwell’s ‘David & Goliath’, one of the best books I have read this year no doubt.
 
Malcolm Gladwell, for those who don’t know is a world-renowned author with several international bestsellers under his belt, the most popular being his book Outliers. Outliers and David and Goliath are albeit a tad bit similar in that they both dwell on the underdog coming out on top but each describing the process in a different way. 
There have been mixed reactions to David & Goliath, which is Gladwell’s most recent work. Critics both love it and are frustrated by it and by this I mean they love its message, which of course is always something one wants to hear, but they also cannot stand the repetitive stand he has slowly started taking in his books. Mixed reviews are expected though; he would not be an international bestselling author without them! I on the other hand particularly learned a lot from this book. Gladwell tells his story as if teaching a class. He actually talks to us readers and his skill at that makes one glued to every single word he writes. David & Goliath was obviously titled as such as there is a lot of allegorical references to the biblical story of the boy shepherd and the giant. It all boils down to one simple fact: being the weaker one in the ring doesn’t always constitute failure. In fact it sometimes assures the very opposite.
David had nothing going for him when he had to face Goliath except his speed thanks to his small frame and his sling. Goliath on the other hand was fully armored and built to kill yet somehow he was defeated by those two things that everyone thought would be David’s downfall… ‘More is not always better.’ Malcolm Gladwell.
A chapter in this book talks about turning your disadvantages into advantages. Gladwell introduces it quite precisely by saying, “We have a definition in our heads of what an advantage is and the definition isn’t right. And what happens as a result? It means that we make mistakes. It means that we misread battles between underdogs and giants. It means that we underestimate how much freedom there can be in what looks like a disadvantage.” He goes on to explain this chapter by using dyslexia as the main focus. Certain difficulties we may involuntarily have may work for us than against us. Gladwell refers to these as desirable difficulties, such as in the case of British billionaire entrepreneur Richard Branson, Big time trial lawyer, David Boies, and Goldman Sachs president Gary Cohn all of whom are dyslexic. They did not let that hinder their hunger for success in life. They are innovators, who Gladwell describes as people who have to be able to imagine things that others cannot and be willing to challenge their own preconceptions.
A good local example of one such innovator is self-made multi-millionaire, Heshan De Silva. He is not dyslexic but he did have some ‘desirable difficulties’ of his own as well. Heshan’s story is one that will be told for generations to come especially because he is part and parcel of today’s generation; he is only 25. He suffered from drug addiction, alcoholism and even attempted suicide after seeing his life spiral down the way it did. He dropped out of college and tried to start over. No one gave him the time of day and job rejections were in the bucket load until he decided that if no one will open a door for him, he would make his own door and open it himself. With only less than 150$ to his name, he started a small insurance business. Today, the 25-year-old venture capitalist and founder of the De Silva Group, is worth over $10 million. Just like David, he was the weaker one in a sea of huge white sharks, but he did not let himself get eaten. Instead he taught himself how to swim even faster, without a single university degree to his name.
David and Goliath is made up of these types of stories and more. Though repetitive, due to its similarity to Outliers, it’s not such a bad thing to be reminded that the Underdog actually does always win.

Typewriter Tuesdays – Fault In Our Stars

So Fault In Our Stars came out in theatres about a month ago I think… Before that I had no interest in John Green’s books at all but decided to check out the book before watching the movie because the book is always better than the film adaptation. Always. I’m yet to watch the film so will let you guys know if once again, this statement is actually true.

So far though, the book has won me over. I am officially on the John Green bandwagon! Let’s talk about Fault In Our Stars now shall we?

As I got into the first few chapters, I thought this was going to be another cliche, teenage romance type novel. I was partially wrong. It is a kind of teenage romance novel but not as cliche and with a lot more adult humor, sarcasm and quite a lot of cancer terminology than usual.

That’s because the story is based on two cancer patients. 16 year old Hazel Grace and 17 year old Augustus Waters. Hazel, diagnosed with lung cancer meets the ever witty Augustus Waters at a cancer support group she had dreaded going to at first. Augustus has osteosarcoma and had actually been cleared of his tumor after having his leg amputated but life really isn’t fair to all of us sadly. The cancer comes back 10 fold later in the story.

Hazel and Augustus form a quick bond and underplay their feelings for each other all the while having one goal in common. Their mission to find the author of a book they love to find out the ending of said novel. This takes them on an impromptu trip to Amsterdam to meet the author, but the trip proves futile in that aspect (said author ended up being a drunk bastard), but was significant in bringing the two of them closer than ever…. And then Augustus semi-ruins the mood by announcing the return of his cancer. Things change from there for Hazel who was not expecting to see her boyfriend go through stage 4 of cancer.

Okay so I guess it is a typical teenage romance type novel BUT in my defense, it really captured all my emotions and I am a hopeless romantic. I just don’t blast it on the PA system. It’s a wonderfully written book, think that’s why it draws you in more and more as you turn the pages. The storyline could have been a happier one but as John Green himself says, ‘The world is not a wish-granting factory.’ I finished this book in a week… quite a feat for me considering my 24hr schedule lol. Also tells you that it is a really good book to read for leisure purposes, perfect book for when you just want something to cosy upto during these long winter nights we have been having of late.

Favorite quote in this book- ‘You don’t get to choose if you get hurt in this world, but you do have some say in who hurts you. I like my choices.’

1st impression of John Green’s work – Love! Think I shall invest in more of his works now.

Typewriter Tuesdays – 50 Shades Of Grey

Happy New Year guys!!

Can’t believe it’s 2014… feels like 2012 was just yesterday but that’s now TWO years ago man. Goodness time is super flying! Just making me older and older with every passing year:-/ If any of you don’t know, my birthday is in January so the new year nowadays always makes me feel weary instead of giddy of my upcoming aging process lol.

Well, you know the saying that everyone sings every 31st December… New Year New Me..?? Yet that never ever happens? Unless you are as disciplined as the 844 system lol. So this year I did’t write down a bunch of resolutions I know I’ll forget by… today haha. I didn’t proclaim to the social media world about my hopes and dreams of the year because contrary to that Law of attraction ish, I feel people are out there to get you for all your positive vibes and dreams and you end up crushed and giving up before you could even try. I just prayed to God Almighty for these 3 things to fill my 2014 and years to come- Growth, Love & Happiness. I think everyone should aspire for this as well esp in our world right now that is filled with so much evil, greed, power and hate. We need more ACTUAL growth in our lives than the new fancy cars that seem to have tripled on the streets, we need more love shown than dead bodies filling our morgues and cemeteries, we need more happiness than what we get from just a few hundred followers on twitter and likes on Instagram. I just feel I need more than that in my life. We need more than that. Both you and I need BETTER than that.

Anyway, this post wasn’t meant for this. It’s book review day! And today I’m doing one on the one and only 50 Shades Of Grey! Yes people… I did actually read it. Little old prudish me took exactly ONE week to read all THREE books in this series. Granted I was on Thanksgiving break at the time haha, but still! 3 books in a week?? That’s a damn record! So 50 shades is an erotica type of novel that is based around the lives of plain jane college student Anastasia Steele and Adonis millionaire Christian Grey. They meet by mistake thanks to Anastasia’s roommate who was meant to interview Mr Grey for the school newspaper but gets sick and sends Anastasia on her behalf. Mr Grey intrigued by Anastasia’s don’t care nonchalant attitude decides to keep tabs on her. Learn her, know her and soon enough want her. His type of wanting though?? Kind of eery, creepy perhaps? Borderline dangerous yo!

Me thinks Mr Grey here has some insane sex obsession thanks to losing his virginity at 15 to one of his mother’s friends who showed him a rather ‘different’ way of having sexual intercourse. Since then he treats women in a rather unorthodox manner… he likes to dominate the woman. Literally and figuratively. And being the gentle man that he is, he asks them to sign contracts first to agree to never disclose their rather awkward relationship to anyone. I think what makes this series so intriguing is the way in which he handles Anastasia especially. I don’t know about ya’ll but I am not fan of dominatrix type of love and BDSM tactics… it’s just kind of sexist? for lack of a better word? And in my opinion quite demeaning to women. Anastasia, a virgin upon meeting Mr Grey didn’t sign the contract at fIrst till she gave herself to him first… the normal way. And then she asked for a taste of the BDSM and realized she can’t handle and leaves Mr Grey devastated. But then another twist in this book is how Mr Grey is able to learn to switch off his inner ‘beast’ when he sees the physical and psychological damage it does to Anastasia. No woman has ever had this effect on him and that’s what kept me reading this rather badly written (in my opinion) book, just to see what happens to them as a couple.

I won’t disclose what happens in the other two books here otherwise we shall have a really really long post on our hands because once I put on my feminist voice there’s no stopping me haha. I’m not recommending this book but I’m not saying don’t read it either. It’s whatever tickles your fancy I guess… If you like erotica books (which I do read from time to time, who doesn’t??) then try it out. If you are completely appalled by anything ‘sex’ in a book then just leave it on the bookshelf and skip over to the more ‘wholesome’ section. In terms of literary skill, E.L. James is just a retired English TV executive who was going through a mid life crisis as she wrote this, so no wonder it’s not so ‘wow’ on the writing style but kudos to her for capturing a world wide audience and topping bestseller lists and Forbes lists thanks to people’s secret love for erotica books lol. I hear there’s a film adaptation that will be out next year… I don’t know how I feel about that, it’s basically going to be violent porn on a screen. But who knows, they may TRY censor something right Hollywood??

Anyway, I won’t be watching it. I liked the story line though, so try it out, lemme know what you think of it. Btw this wasn’t my ultimate choice of book to start 2014 typewriter tuesdays with haha.. I was just talking about it with my friend @MsBibalove the other day and *lightbulb moment*!! Just started writing and here we are.

Happy first week of work, school and whatever else you are getting up to this year. Hope 2014 is great so far!

Typewriter Tuesdays – Lean In

I totally forgot to post this last week… Blame my confused brain for that and I like how I didn’t realize till today when I was meant to write yet another review, lol.. Well I guess now I’m ahead for next week, lets hope I don’t forget to post that one either.

Today’s review is on the nationally acclaimed book by Sheryl Sandberg or the Facebook lady as most people call her, which I don’t get why.. How is she the Facebook lady just because she works there?

LEAN IN: Women, Work and the Will to Lead

That title alone should already interest you to find out what’s so good about Sheryl. Sheryl Sandberg is the current COO of Facebook and has been listed not only as one of the 50 most Powerful Women in Business but also as one of TIME’s 100 most influential people. Her TEDTalk catapulted her even higher in the status area as she spoke about women holding themselves back from getting what they want and what they deserve in the professional world.

As I read this book, I thought it was going to be another self-help book in the likes of the 7 Habits books, not that I have anything against those books, but we get it already, we don’t need 100 more books talking about the same thing… It turned out Sheryl wasn’t as nauseating as most of those books, which is good or my review wouldn’t have been as nice as its turning out to be haha..

One famous statement from Sandberg is ‘sit at the table’. What does this mean you ask? Well simply that.. SIT AT THE TABLE. Don’t wait to be invited, don’t wait to be summoned, know your place in an office, boardroom, conference, meeting, business deal and sit at the table. She goes on to explain that ‘sitting at the table’ means seek challenges, take risks and pursue your goals with gusto. Sheryl has various big shots quoted in her book who are just as normal as you and me, they made the same mistakes, some even made bigger ones but they learned from them and that’s what’s placed them where they are today as powerful women.

For instance, Cisco’s chief technology officer was interviewed by Huffington Post and asked what important lesson she learned from a mistake she made in the past… She admits to saying no to a lot of opportunities when she was starting out because she thought she wasn’t qualified due to the type of degree she had studied for. Sheryl reminds us that there isn’t any perfect fit when you are looking for the next step in your early career, you should just take various opportunities and make it fit for you rather than vice versa. Confidence is key in finding your footing in this big bad world and only when you have confidence will you learn to sit at the table

Sheryl’s style of writing isn’t ‘preacher’ type like most self-help books, she tells a story that I think every single woman no matter what background can relate to. Being a recent graduate this book has been key in making sure I don’t die of depression due to the constant search for a job and the constant rejection I have faced in the past months and will face in months to come. It has helped me keep my head high and stay positive and continue working hard to get to where I want to be eventually. It has been my solace of sorts as the situations I have faced, she has too or has examples of powerful women who have gone through it as well and if they came out as strong as they are now, I know my time will come as well. Sheryl introduces us to not only her professional life but her personal one as well as the two are fully integrated and both depend on her a lot. Having an entire cooperation under your care plus a family as well can be demanding, tiring and hectic but she handles it with all the grace and poise in the world… with obvious mishaps here and there but no one is perfect right??

One other important lesson I learned from reading Sheryl’s story is to never mute my achievements. It doesn’t do anyone any good. I know it looks all modest and all but if you mute your achievements, who will ever know about you and realize your potential and value? Sheryl talks about women being these nurturing beings and men being the leaders; meaning women are meant to be nice first before being competent. “If a woman is competent, she does not seem nice enough. If a woman seems really nice, she is considered more nice than competent. Since people want to hire and promote those who BOTH competent and nice, this creates a huge stumbling block for women. Acting in stereotypically feminine ways makes it difficult to reach for the same opportunities as men, but defying expectations and reaching for those opportunities leads to being judged as underserving and selfish.” I can quote so much more but what good will that do in boosting up her sales index right? We as women have to work twice as hard as any man to get to the top and we still have to be nice while doing it?? Why is that? We feel the need to belittle(for lack of a better word) our accomplishments to appear as ‘nice’ and liked by everyone and for what purpose? What will being liked gain for YOU in the future? I highly doubt it will pay those bills you have on the kitchen table and neither will it feed your children unless you are a nanny.. Nice nannies make more money:)

Lean in, literally leans in to the lives of the everyday woman, the mother, the teacher, the driver, the professor, the scientist, the manager, the intern, the sales associate, the MD, the CEO, the COO like Sheryl, the President, etc… No matter your ranking in society, you still have to give in to certain societal norms just because apparently thats how it’s meant to be? Sheryl’s book tells us otherwise, it lets us know that we can be all those things and not be afraid of showing off, and not have to think about how it looks to society. We can do all that and sit at the table with the big boys, have the same meetings, make the same deals, make the same money or much more and become even better than they are. I may come off as all feminist in this post but I do agree with everything ‘Lean In’ talks about.

Have a sit at the table ladies, have the will to lead and you will succeed. Also, get this book, I promise you it will not drudge on and on but actually inspire you and get you motivated to take charge of your life as a professional woman, it will help you harness the power within you that you know you have.

As it is the end of summer, I wanna wish you a good first week of school for those of you in school
(how cool is it that Im not in that group anymore?? haha) and a good first week of life in the real world for us newbies and a good week to the rest of you wonderful people!

Pictorial #4?

Can’t really recall how many pictorials I have done, its been a while since the last one so Im just taking a wild guess here.
Ola folks! For those of you awaiting Typewriter Tuesdays, no need to fret, I shall probably have a review ready for next week, I’m not promising because my schedule has been a bit helter skelter but I will try my best. I appreciate all of your feedback on the past reviews, it makes my day to know I am actually reaching out to people and getting them into the reading spirit again! Please remember that to get weekly updates on this blog, FOLLOW IT-just click on the button to your right, and you’ll never miss a beat:)

Summer is slowly but surely coming to an end already imagine, its already freaking august!! Where did time go? And you know what that means? My time in the big apple is also sadly coming to an end as well so trying to make the most of my last few weeks here. I’v been having a rough couple of weeks which I won’t go into details about to avoid a long and annoyingly depressing post lol but all I ask is that you keep me in your prayers tonight and every night if you can, much appreciated. The images I shall share below are just some random shots Iv managed to take while busy job hunting and just living it up here in NY, as much as I have been stressed/frustrated while being here, I have also been inspired, mesmerized and caught off guard plenty of times by the amazingness of being here as well. Okay, enough talk!

NY is mostly famous for its breathtaking skyline… so pardon the several skyline pics I have here, all shot by me via my iphone if I may say so lol… #teamapple

This is my backyard fyi… Love it! #Harlemliving

Union Square. I love this area because the Barnes & Nobles here is so cool! Looks like some kind of Victorian library, so I spend a lot of time here.. and money too but its all for a good cause! Typewriter Tuesdays’ type of cause lol

My NY girlfriends, Emma & Nimoi; amazing women!

@MumbeMuthama and I stumbled upon a Sex museum downtown and this was at the entrance…

See what I meant by a good cause?:) What’s on your summer reading list?

Finally understand why I love Turquoise so much

Introducing my Godson, Jeremy:) babies are way too cute!

Yet another skyline pic… of Brooklyn though!

Harlem at dusk

Got to experience 4th of July finally! #bucketlist

So I have an aunt here who lives in an apt complex with the sickest rooftop view of the entire city in my opinion.

As in seriously… where else can you find a view like that??

NY and its sense of humor on a monday morning lol

One of the several peaceful protests held for Trayvon Martin after Zimmerman was declared not guilty of killing him… Union Sq

Okay okay, Im done with the skyline pics after this lol.. this is also right behind my apartment, my view during my morning run:)

Cuban food! I really should work more on the food pics esp being in NY with its 3000+ restaurants lol.. the hunger is normally so real though that I forget sometimes:)

And I shall end this pictorial with the insane temperatures that hit the city a few weeks ago… Heatwave is an understatement to the ridiculousness that was the weather during that time. And oh yeah, that was 6pm.. can u imagine how it was at midday??? It has cooled down reasonably since then though, Thank God!

As August begins in practically less than 24 hrs, here’s to wishing you all a great last month of summer.